Most people train, workout, etc., to change how their body looks. To get "skinny." I won't lie, when I first started working out I wanted to change how I looked in pictures and look like the Instagram models I saw scrolling on my feed. One year later, and I still cant help but notice when my stomach looks bloated, or if my thighs look "heavy."
You're always going to judge yourself and notice things you don't like. It's a part of being human. But, I realized something a year ago that got me to love my body then and love it more now.
It's my own body, my own mind, my own life.
What I do with it and the decisions I make only affect me, no one else. What others think, has nothing to do with what you want. When I truly understood this, I started working towards improving myself, not "fixing" myself, and I started seeing a difference in my life right away.
Instead of wishing for me to reach my goals, I started making conscious active decisions towards reaching them. My goals didn't only include the gym either. They included school, health, and career goals too. Once I pushed myself to improve, all the things I wanted slowly started falling in place.
From last year to now, I've heard comments on opposite ends of the spectrum. These are 100% real life examples:
"You just need to lose some weight in your thighs."
"You would be so slim if you just ran"
"You're my motivation."
"You're going to give up like everyone else."
"You look good, I can definitely see a difference"
"Stop going now or you're going to look too 'muscley' like a guy"
"You're too skinny now"
I know that I am in no way a pro and I still have a lot to learn. However, I have learned a lot about fitness and about myself, from my experiences. One thing I learned to do was to use every judgment or praise I receive, to be another reason to do it for me. My mantra became, I'll do me, you do you.
Basically, you have two choices: If you try to listen to everyone else, you're always gonna be held back. If you work on yourself, you're going to find confidence to do even better and before you know it you'll be crushing everything you do.
Anyone can find an excuse not to be the best, and use any reason to not grind towards their goals. That's easy. What's hard is finding the energy to stay on the grind, and put in the work to be able to say that despite everything, you did it.
When you truly find what empowers you, whether it be the gym, starting something close to your heart, proving the haters wrong, etc., you'll find that satisfaction and energy in everything you do.
Train your mind to "improve" not "fix," and you'll find that things start falling together.